Stress at work

I'm dealing with quite a bit of stress at work today and I think it's contributing to how I feel. One of my employees and I are really battling it out and it's just taking so much out of me to deal with. I work in an organization where confrontation is avoided at all costs... people literally have altercations at work without follow up. So i feel like I'm unsupported and I'm working in an environment like a McDonalds run a muck.

I know if I look at it objectively, this person has done it to themself. Comes in late, takes long lunches, leaves early, plays games at work a lot, has an attitude and general disrepect towards authority. I'm a very non-confrontational person myself, but I can't stand by and allow this to happen... it's my job to make sure that it doesn't. So I'm really all over this personn right now and it's creating quite a bit of underlying animosity between the two of us. I personally think he deserves to be dismissed, but dont' quite have the authority to make that call at this time.

It's very stressful, very very stressful. .What I should be doing is focusing on the things that I can control. I can't control his actions. I can't make him comply with the basics of employment, whatever he does he does by his own choice. It's not because I'm a bad manager, because I have other members of my team who do comply and respect my word. I'm a honest and sincere boss, something I always wanted myself. I'm a gift to my employees, because I'm approachable and understanding, compassionate and thorough. I'm also good at what I do. Part of the big problem is simply the account I work on, and the turmoil that it's in. There is very little support from upper management in my role, so I'm being hung out to try. I do have the support of my new VP and hopefully that will bring this issue to the fore front.

I've done all i can to support this person and help them, but it is not my fault that things are the way they are. This will get resolved soon, as I simply won't tolerate it anymore.